In general people know what moves them better than they understand what moves others. Those who are very analytical, introspective or self-aware understand their own motivations, feelings and wishes. And, innately, they are inclined to follow these promptings. Even those blessed with less self-awareness, do the same.
It is much easier for me to excuse, explain or pardon my own failings than to forgive the faults of others. Not necessarily because I am more selfish (although I might be), but simply because I can't see into another's heart. I would have to make allowance for the unknown factors prompting someone else's actions. Napoleon had an inkling when he said, “Don't ascribe to malice that which can better be explained by stupidity.”
Many people believe that their actions are directed by some outside agency; even fate or karma. Nonetheless, they still act as they “want” to act. If I say that I do only what I want to do, this does not mean that I will now steal another's car because I like the look of it. No, I “want” to remain in the good books of the law enforcers. In a sense my actions are directed by the law.
So we all do as we see fit, in many ways. Of course, this does not mean that we are chained to a destiny. There are still choices. We can follow the widely accepted principle that it is good to do unto others as we would like them to do unto us.
Why is it so hard, though? Is it because the heat of an impulsive response overturns the cool reason of altruism? Is it selfishness trumping kindness?
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